Post - Wedding Ceremonies
 

Photo courtesy Jaya Bagaria

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


Photo courtesy Jaya Bagaria


Bashi Biye
- Day after Wedding
Both husband and wife take their batsh and get ready. Again a puja is performed. The girl is again gifted sindur (vermillion) and other accessories for her daily married life.

Doli / Vidaa
- Day after Wedding
The most tragic part of the events. The girl leaves her father’s house forever. She symbolically repays what her father has spent on her by throwing mud, grass, paddy and coin to her mother’s anchal. This is called Kankanjali. She is not allowed to look back after this and goes out along with her husband towards her in-laws house barefoot.

Bodhu Boron
- Day after Wedding
The vehicle or doli with the new bride and groom reaches the groom’s house. An alpana adorns the entrance to greet the bride. She is supposed to stand on a stone utensil full of milk & alta and then she is greeted with the a lamp full of holy ghee and the Borondala. She holds a vessel full of water, which is the symbol of motherhood and childbirth. She holds a small fish as well. Finally she is bought inside the house and taken to the kitchen where a pot of milk is boiled. This signifies that after her arrival in the family, there will henceforth be limitless happiness, like amrita dhara. She inspects the kitchen, which abounds with plenty of eatables. She does not intereact her husband. That night, called Kal Ratri, they sleep separately. This is a way to ease her into her new life.

Bou Bhaat
- Two Days after Wedding
The following day, the bride prepares sweet rice and serves a lunch of rice, vegetables, fish, sweets, to her new family and promises to continue throughout her life. This meal is called Bou Bhaat (Bride Rice).

Reception
- Two Days after Wedding
The Reception is held in the evening. A large number of guests come to greet the newlyweds and have dinner. The bridge and groom are usually seated on decorated chairs on a dias, and spend almost all the time greeting guests.

Phool Sojja
- Two Days after Wedding
At night flowers, sweets, paan (betel leaf), chandan (sandalwood) and fragrances come from bride’s house to the groom’s house for Phool Sojja. The couples bed is decorated with flowers. The bride enters her room and meets her husband.

Ashtamangala
- Seven Days after Wedding
Within the 8 days of marriage both the husband and wife┬ávisit the girl’s house for the first time. This is also the girl’s first visit to her father’s house after her marriage. A puja is performed at the girl’s house which is called Subachoni Puja.
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